Has it been so long since you felt truly happy with your partner that the happy couple you see in the pictures on the wall doesn’t even feel like you? Maybe it seems like another couple…
Your life is so entwined with each other… you’re not sure if you’re just staying together because you truly love and want to be together… or staying is just easier.
This isn’t the relationship you thought you would have or the life you want to live, and you just want to know if you should stay or go.
Your partner has been unfaithful, and you’re not sure if you can get past the betrayal.
You’ve been reaching out, trying to connect with your partner on an emotional level, and they keep distancing themselves from you, leaving you feeling hurt, abandoned, and alone.
Maybe when you started your relationship together you both seemed to be on the same path, but now all you seem to do is fight about everything. You just don’t seem to want the same things out of life anymore.
Whatever the heart of the issue is, you know you’re not happy – not the way you used to be, not the way you want to be.
It can be scary to take the first step to find out if your relationship is worth saving, but once you know the relief you feel is worth it.
Whether you’re married or not… been together for a long time or not… answering this question is what short-term couples counseling is for, so you can have a deadline to decide. So, you don’t have to worry about wasting months in a relationship that is no longer right for you.
Short-term couple’s counseling consists of an intake and three 50-minute sessions for $600.
This short-term therapy is only for couples that are not sure if they want to continue their relationship. We meet together to talk about where you are in your relationship, then I meet with each of you individually, then we come back together to decide if counseling to save your relationship is what you want.
While it may seem like such an easy decision, whether to stay or go, it’s often one of the most difficult, usually because you love your partner and don’t want to hurt them.
You’re tired of accepting things the way they are.
You want to know if you should stay in the relationship and recommit to your partner, free of all those nagging doubts and questions you can’t seem to shake – ready to pour all your love, time, and energy back into your relationship. Or maybe you should leave, finally feel free from confusion and pain – free to move forward to your new life.
When you make this decision together with a therapist who can provide clarity, experience, and assessments to the relationship that you are already an expert in, the decision can be much clearer and easier.
Having someone else in the room to listen to and mediate between the two of you can be extremely helpful to take some of the pressure off of both of you and give you room to take a breath.
You will have a much clearer idea of whether your relationship can or should be saved. You can feel secure knowing that staying in the relationship and working toward being together and whole again is the right decision for you.
When some of the confusion and pain have been processed, former clients talk about how much easier the decision to stay or go was to make. They talk about leaving the relationship as friends, when just a month ago they didn’t imagine that was possible. They talk about feeling so connected to their partner after this experience and feeling more committed than ever to working on their relationship.
If you decide to move forward together, we can then begin traditional marriage therapy. Traditional marriage therapy then becomes about strengthening the bond and connection between the two of you so when you reach for your partner, you know they will be there.
Fear is the number one reason people don’t pick up the phone to get the help that they need. Don’t let fear hold you hostage anymore.
Don’t spend another day with the unanswered question of should you stay together.
We’ll learn about your needs and recommend one of our specialized therapists.
