… counting down the minutes with a pounding heart and full body tingles when you thought about being in your lover’s arms again. There was a time when being intimate with your partner was the highlight of any day.
But the butterflies that used to take up residence in your chest when you thought about or saw your partner have long since faded away.
The thing you used to cherish most about being with your partner is now the thing you fight about most often.
These days, it seems as though there are more arguments about sex than actual sex. And even when you’re not fighting about sex, you’re still fighting about sex.
Sex is not just one more thing on your bloated to-do list.
Between the kids, aging parents, work responsibilities, and the 50 million other things on your must-do-to-keep-your-life afloat, sex is always relegated to the bottom of the list.
By the end of the day, you’re exhausted; and the last thing you want to think about is sex.
You may wonder if a downturn in your sex life is just a normal occurrence in any marriage. While that is sometimes true, much more often the problem is something you just don’t have the knowledge to solve on your own.
The Internet is great, but just searching for low desire fixes probably left you more confused than informed and definitely didn’t provide you with a clear way forward to fix the problem.
But I can and in a way that takes into account your comfort level with sex and what you are capable of doing.
While it may seem like such an easy decision, whether to stay or go, it’s often one of the most difficult, usually because you love your partner and don’t want to hurt them.
Why should I see a sex therapist? And will sex therapy help me?
Sex therapy is a safe and effective way to get the help you need to work through any issue that may be contributing to a sexual problem… and to help you find useful ways to improve the quality of your sex life.
Issues I see in my office can include low desire on the part of one partner, premature ejaculation, or learning to reconnect and be intimate after an affair.
Together, we will evaluate your concerns regarding your sexual health and look for solutions. This may involve working with anyone from a physical therapist to your doctor.
A typical sex therapy session is just like any other kind of talk therapy. Each session and intervention is tailored specifically to deal with the problem that brings you in to see me. After every session, you will leave with a greater understanding of the issue that brought you into sex therapy… and homework that will keep the information you get during the session fresh in your mind.
Please know that you are not alone.
Anywhere from 35-50% of people will experience a troubling problem in their sex lives. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you, that you’re not normal, or that you can’t have a satisfactory sex life despite the issue bringing you into my office.
Things don’t have to stay the way they are right now.
Please don’t be afraid to reach out for help. I understand how busy life is, so I have evening and weekend hours available.
We’ll learn about your needs and recommend one of our specialized therapists.
